the holidays are a stressful time, but for those of us who lost a child, the holidays present extra challenges. every time someone says merry christmas, i think, really? how can it be merry? my response is usually a serious humbug and they laugh. i know my feelings stem from the grief and all that accompanies it, so i don’t try to hide it. sometimes people just don’t know how to act or react – they pretend nothing happened, they say what i perceive to be the wrong thing, or they’re supportive and they understand the effect of the loss. either your children are with you for the rest of your life, or their loss is there for the same amount of time; there is no ‘getting over it.’

at 7 pm this evening, i’ll be joining families and friends around the globe to create a virtual wave of candle light for one hour to honour and remember children who have died at any age from any cause.

and, as always, i’ll keep putting one foot in front of the other and escaping into my card making world. thanks for popping by.