the holidays are a stressful time, but for those of us who lost a child, the holidays present extra challenges. every time someone says merry christmas, i think, really? how can it be merry? my response is usually a serious humbug and they laugh. i know my feelings stem from the grief and all that accompanies it, so i don’t try to hide it. sometimes people just don’t know how to act or react – they pretend nothing happened, they say what i perceive to be the wrong thing, or they’re supportive and they understand the effect of the loss. either your children are with you for the rest of your life, or their loss is there for the same amount of time; there is no ‘getting over it.’
at 7 pm this evening, i’ll be joining families and friends around the globe to create a virtual wave of candle light for one hour to honour and remember children who have died at any age from any cause.
and, as always, i’ll keep putting one foot in front of the other and escaping into my card making world. thanks for popping by.
*nods* :(
I’m sure you speak for many grieving parents Linda. Those of us who haven’t experienced such loss don’t know how to appropriately reach out and often don’t say anything for fear of causing more upset. I hope that although, as you say, you will never “get over” losing your son, you will find some peace in the spirit of this season and in the joyful memories of past Christmases spent with your son. I will say a special prayer for all grieving parents and families tonight.
God bless,
Marie
I didnt realize this was happening today, Linda. I know your pain is profound and aways will be. This is a loss parents carry a lifetime. If only there was something I could do to ease your pain. My thoughts are with you, my sweet friend. Hugs, Anne
I can’t image the loss you have suffered. I just want you to know that you are in my heart and my prayers Linda. Hugs, Anita
Sending virtual hugs to you across the pond. xxx I cannot imagine your pain as I never had children, but I can at least sympathise with you. xxx
Dearest Linda,
Thinking of you as your heart aches…….love Jocelyn